Telling your parents you’re pregnant may be one of the conversations you’re dreading most. You may be worried they’ll be angry, disappointed, or immediately start telling you what they think you should do.
You don’t need to have every answer before you tell them. A little preparation, though, can make the conversation easier to begin. A Women’s Pregnancy Center can also help you prepare and answer questions about your pregnancy. Schedule an appointment today for free, confidential support.
Decide Who You Want to Tell First
You don’t necessarily have to sit both parents down at the same time. If you feel more comfortable with one parent, guardian, or another trusted adult, you might start there.
Think about who is most likely to remain calm and give you time to explain. Having that person beside you when you tell someone else may also make the next conversation less intimidating.
Plan How You’ll Start the Conversation
Finding the first few words can be the hardest part. You might begin by saying that you have something important to share and that you need them to hear you out before responding.
Choose a time when you won’t be interrupted or rushed. You can also think beforehand about what you’re comfortable sharing. If you have confirmed your pregnancy, you might tell them when you had an ultrasound and what details you already know.
You don’t need to know exactly what you want to do about the pregnancy before having this conversation.
Their First Reaction May Change
Your parents might be surprised, quiet, upset, or full of questions. A strong first response doesn’t necessarily tell you what future conversations will look like.
They may need time to absorb the news just as you did. If the conversation becomes heated, you can return to it later when emotions aren’t as high.
If you’re concerned that telling your parents could put you in danger, prioritize your safety. Speak with a trusted adult, school counselor, or another safe person before having the conversation. If you’re experiencing abuse or threats, the National Domestic Violence Hotline offers 24/7 assistance at 800-799-7233. Remember, even if you’re a minor, no one, not even your parents, has the right to make pregnancy decisions for you.
Know What You Need From Them
Your parents may immediately start thinking about school, finances, housing, or your future. Their questions don’t have to be answered in one night.
It may help to tell them specifically what you need right now. Perhaps you want help scheduling doctor’s appointments, researching your options, or just having a little time before another conversation.
An unexpected pregnancy as a teenager can raise questions you never expected to face. You don’t have to answer all of them at once. We’re here to offer a listening ear and the encouragement you need. Our team can even help you address concerns related to navigating pregnancy and school and point you toward free resources.
Schedule a free, confidential appointment with A Women’s Pregnancy Center today.
A Women’s Pregnancy Center does not provide or refer for abortions.